When you're lonely, I'll be lonely too

I'm a 22 year old sociology student at Oklahoma State University. I post what I love with a few personal rants and comments thrown in.

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Saturdays are for adventure; Sundays are for cuddling. General Life Philosophy (via h-o-r-n-g-r-y)

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Date night. 👭 So good.  So much food.  🐙🐚🍤🍜 (at Jebudo,  Seafood Bbq)

Date night. 👭 So good. So much food. 🐙🐚🍤🍜 (at Jebudo, Seafood Bbq)

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This is real.


This is real.

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this will be my child

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❤️those 🌴🌴🌴s #vscocam (at East Hollywood, Los Angeles-California 90027)

❤️those 🌴🌴🌴s #vscocam (at East Hollywood, Los Angeles-California 90027)

I’ll never punish my daughter for saying no.

The first time it comes out of her mouth, I’ll smile gleefully. As she repeats “No! No! No!” I’ll laugh, overjoyed. At a young age, she’ll have mastered a wonderful skill. A skill I’m still trying to learn. I know I’ll have to teach her that she has to eat her vegetables, and she has to take a nap. But “No” is not wrong. It is not disobedience.

1. She will know her feelings are valid.
2. She will know that when I no longer guide her, she still has a right to refuse.

The first time a boy pulls her hair after she says no, and the teacher tells her “boys will be boys,” we will go to her together, and explain that my daughter’s body is not a public amenity. That boy isn’t teasing her because he likes her, he is harassing her because it is allowed. I will not reinforce that opinion. If my son can understand that “no means no” so can everyone else’s.

3. She owes no one her silence, her time, or her cooperation.

The first time she tells a teacher, “No, that is wrong,” and proceeds to correct his public school, biased rhetoric, I’ll revel in the fact that she knows her history; that she knows our history. The first time she tells me “No” with the purpose and authority that each adult is entitled, I will stop. I will apologize. I will listen.

4. She is entitled to her feelings and her space. I, even a a parent, have no right to violate them.
5. No one has a right to violate them.

The first time my mother questions why I won’t make her kiss my great aunt at Christmas, I’ll explain that her space isn’t mine to control. That she gains nothing but self doubt when she is forced into unwanted affection. I’ll explain that “no” is a complete sentence. When the rest of my family questions why she is not made to wear a dress to our reunion dinner. I will explain that her expression is her own. It provides no growth to force her into unnecessary and unwanted situation.

6. She is entitled to her expression.

When my daughter leaves my home, and learns that the world is not as open, caring, and supportive as her mother, she will be prepared. She will know that she can return if she wishes, that the real world can wait. She will not want to. She will not need to. I will have prepared her, as much as I can, for a world that will try to push her down at every turn.

7. She is her own person. She is complete as she is.

I will never punish my daughter for saying no. I want “No” to be a familiar friend. I never want her to feel that she cannot say it. She will know how to call on “No” whenever it is needed, or wanted.

Lessons I Will Teach, Because the World Will Not — Y.S. (via poetryinspiredbyyou)


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Be humble for you are made of earth.
Be noble for you are made of stars.
Serbian Proverb (via h-o-r-n-g-r-y)

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Have patience with all things— but first with yourself. Never confuse your mistakes with your value as a human being. You are perfectly valuable, creative, worthwhile person simply because you exist. And no amount of triumphs or tribulations can ever change that. Saint Francis de Sales (via throughmythirdeye)

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You are personally responsible for becoming more ethical than the society you grew up in.

Eliezer Yudkowsky  (via rampias)

Being a “product of their times” is no excuse. Never let someone off the hook for bigotry. 

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I just want this LA thing to work out for us so badly.

Growth is painful. Change is painful.But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong. Mandy Hale (via exiie)

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Flower Garden (1905-1907)
Gustav Klimt

Flower Garden (1905-1907)

Gustav Klimt

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